I was watching one of my favorite shows this morning, "The View" and they were going hard on romantic comedy movies. According to Sherri Shepherd, romantic comedies just set "regular" women up to think they could actually get a "Tom Cruise" or "Brad Pitt" gorgeous looking man, when in reality those are just false expectations. Well...I'm going to have to disagree with you Sherri. I do think because of it being a movie, there is some kind of exaggerating for entertainment purposes but there is some truth to the average chick meeting a stud. This is how I see it. You have a fine man (LL Cool J, Shannon Brown, and Hill Harper) who knows he's fine and is always told that he's fine. After a while he starts getting fed up with the superficial and shallow women that are after him. Nine times out of ten, these fine men are meeting the "creme of the crop" women, but that can only go so far. If all the women you meet are beautiful, have no brains and live off their looks, then can you imagine what's going to happen when that man starts changing, growing, and no longer desiring the physical attributes of beauty but now has a thirst and a longing for the other side of beauty that he's rarely use to seeing. He's going to look for that regular chick or that beautiful chick who's grounded and meek. And for the record, an "average" looking woman with a great personality and an awesome spirit can out-shine a "stereotypically" beautiful woman any day! So see Sherri "average" (and I use that term very lightly) women can get fine, hunk-of-chocolate men!
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So, I went to a relationship forum yesterday and the most interesting statement of the night was made in comparison to a water buffalo and a lion. Yes, a water buffalo. One of the panelist explained the biblical passage, Proverbs:18:22, "A man that findeth a wife findeth a good thing" in everyday lingo. Have you ever watched a water buffalo slowly stride its way into the lion's den? As a matter of fact, is the water buffalo knowingly anywhere near the lion? No! So why are women out finding their husbands? Why are the "new day and age" water buffalos out looking for the lions? This would make a hilarious commercial, to see the water buffalo seducing the lion to eat it. The analogy sounds great, makes perfect sense and all that other good stuff but is that common in 2010? Some men love it when women approach them. What about the woman who makes her presence known to a man, is she out of order with nature as well? Is the woman's role really only to prepare herself for her husband and do nothing else but that? Or is there a happy medium to female and male roles in the dating arena? There is a prominent pastoral couple (I'll omit names and location) that I am familiar with and the wife always tells her story of how she met her husband. She noticed him first and assumed that if she didn't make some kind of a move, he would not see her. She then went and stood right outside of the area where he was at, so when he planned to leave that particular area, he would have no choice but to walk past her. I remember her distinctively describing it as how she "positioned" herself.
Ladies and Gents, this post is just a conversation starter, I agree with the panelist, I love being chased *wink* *wink* What do you think about this?
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Irecently came to the conclusion that I was a "serial dater" so I decided to share with you all. I've had an influx of dates in the past month or two which is quite the surprise for me. Some may be cheering me on and others may be saying I'm doing too much. Either way, my dating relationships have come to an abrupt end so it doesn't really matter. As I sat on my computer, doing editing work for my novel, I realized, I'm not really interested in any of the men I'm dating. They're cool, fun, cute and blah blah blah but for some reason, I don't see myself being with any of them. I think some where around the number exchanging and phone conversations, I became a chick that wanted to get to know a person rather than make petty judgements but it appears that my interest level is floating at a steady paste. I sometimes answer my phone, I sometimes return their phone calls. I don't want to date like that. I don't want to be so focused on giving men a chance that I become "too open" ignoring the qualities and characteristics that excite me and interest me in the physical and mental. So yes, I'm starting over but first I must do some evaluating of course. First lesson learned: Do everything with purpose. Random dating is out of the question for me. I know my goals, I know my interest. If ours align, great, if they don't, it was nice meeting you...
So are you a serial dater?
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